Not judging is the essence of self-acceptance, which continues as an important theme in my own life. I see ever more clearly that if I don’t fully love and accept myself, I’m just caught in an endless cycle of seeking external validation. In relationships, through work, in blogging, in competitive activities, in spiritual endeavors, in myriad ways.
While relying on external validation sometimes works for awhile, sooner or later, it only activates a continuous loop of hope and fear, which generates suffering and discontent. But, of course, it’s difficult to disconnect from all the subtle ways we seek outer validation, isn’t it? This form of hope and fear simply is the modus operandi for many of us. It confirms our existence and keep us from experiencing that terrifying sense of groundlessness that is actually the way things are.
meditation and keeping my fait are two ways that I nourish self-acceptance. It may not be obvious, but meditation can also be a way to express compassion for ourselves when we refrain from judging what arises in our mind.
I’m also working on self-acceptance by taking responsibility for my emotions, being honest about my limitations, and clear about what’s true for me. I assure you it’s all a work in progression and not a final work of art!
And, I take some time to write a note to myself when I feel a need for encouragement and write to my God who made me absolutely unique and who made me who I am this day.He inspires me to become more the person that I am and that I should be. Grant that i may understand that He loves me,my faults and all a
nd that I may accept MYSELF even as He accepts me!!
nd that I may accept MYSELF even as He accepts me!!
JILL
This is so beautiful Jill;I always knew u enjoyed writing,watching u for many days writing in your room,it makes me smile knowing your expressing the feelings you have-like you use to do.
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